tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post2103567039134056773..comments2022-09-04T13:07:46.930-07:00Comments on Getting Verbal Abuse out of my Life: It's not abuse, it's just my interpretation?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-7460218115832185562008-05-29T07:11:00.000-07:002008-05-29T07:11:00.000-07:00This article is very, very helpful. Here is a disc...This article is very, very helpful. <BR/><BR/>Here is a discussion of it on the Rick Ross website. <BR/><BR/>Thank you again. I thought I had experience in understanding this and your article helped me look at it from an entire new, and liberating angle. <BR/><BR/>http://forum.rickross.com/read.php?12,12906,56911#msg-56911Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-54537905589018531442008-05-27T22:28:00.000-07:002008-05-27T22:28:00.000-07:00I hear ya CZ. In fact, the idea that we, and only ...I hear ya CZ. In fact, the idea that we, and only we, create our feelings could be a handy tool for manipulators/abusers to use when their target expresses pain about the abuse. Yuk.<BR/><BR/>A healthy intimate relationship requires vulnerability which requires safety. If you reach a point where you are no longer bothered by abuse, there are some very big walls between you and the other person.jenniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373121865782897369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-2272765656866189902008-05-27T21:10:00.000-07:002008-05-27T21:10:00.000-07:00Can I just tell you how sick to death I am of hear...Can I just tell you how sick to death I am of hearing such nonsense? Anyone who has dealt with a manipulator knows only too well that specific feelings can be triggered by another person. <BR/><BR/>While it's useful to believe we have power to make choices no matter what our emotional reactions might have been, it's ridiculous to say other people can't make us feel anything we don't ALLOW them to make us feel. <BR/><BR/>It's just another way to Blame the Victim and let the abuser off the hook. That's my two cents anyway.<BR/><BR/>Oh, one more thing. Suggesting we become invulnerable fortresses is counterproductive to creating healthy relationships!! <BR/><BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.com