tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post5088808328046966654..comments2022-09-04T13:07:46.930-07:00Comments on Getting Verbal Abuse out of my Life: I have bad news and good news.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-19409651445992730412013-09-16T08:20:31.180-07:002013-09-16T08:20:31.180-07:00I hear and understand everything you expressed in ...I hear and understand everything you expressed in your post. I am just learning what my life for the past 42 years was like. My story is long and I lived with him for 42 years for a good reason but too long to explain here. I just want to share with you I understand and I have created a Blog for my Visual Journaling expressing my feelings of hurt in my art. Please check it out and follow me.<br /><br />www.scrapperjudedesigns.wordpress.com<br />scrapperJude Designshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01381776137119639965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-64280742154740824832012-06-11T12:19:10.850-07:002012-06-11T12:19:10.850-07:00do u know how I could get added to Marianna's ...do u know how I could get added to Marianna's blog so I can read it?Jenny Damagedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14157279377957087728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-21209471288910691312012-02-14T10:51:57.770-08:002012-02-14T10:51:57.770-08:00I'm so sorry to hear about all the pain you ha...I'm so sorry to hear about all the pain you have had to go through...I just wanted to say thank you. It is nice to know that there are people out there who recognize verbal abuse for what is is. Usually, people only pay attention to broken bones, not broken hearts. I am hoping my blog will help people as yours has. Thank you so much. God Bless You :)xLiveOutLoudxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17381784261171697989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-38393536389239650072011-07-25T14:51:31.142-07:002011-07-25T14:51:31.142-07:00hi, i am in the process of writing a blog of my ex...hi, i am in the process of writing a blog of my experiences of being with a somatic narcissistic wife, and i hope that it will be of some help to others out there in the same boat<br /><a href="http://somatic-narcissistic-wife.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">somatic narcissistic wife</a>survivedhellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08252111432353828053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-34413824839847034322010-05-26T23:47:23.887-07:002010-05-26T23:47:23.887-07:00We seem to fear most, the very thing we must do to...We seem to fear most, the very thing we must do to prevent it. Why are we made this way ? <br />Because we always hope.<br /><br />I wish you well.A Mother Alwayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13061214919572800420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-36284774414821213202010-01-31T08:01:13.207-08:002010-01-31T08:01:13.207-08:00Thank you Daniel. I was willing to hang in there s...Thank you Daniel. I was willing to hang in there so long as he was doing the work and things were moving in a positive direction over time. Clearly, that positive movement came to a screeching halt.<br /><br />I hope you are continuing to heal and grow, however your situation turned out.jenniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373121865782897369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-7294447631818012592010-01-31T07:57:50.320-08:002010-01-31T07:57:50.320-08:00LOL. Thanks Leila for the validation. I like your ...LOL. Thanks Leila for the validation. I like your fire.<br /><br />I certainly feel like giving him hell, yet sometimes, giving them hell just shows how much you care. KWIM? A woman who has moved on and is getting dolled up and going out with a handsome dude doesn't take time to send photos to the stbx. He's just not worth the trouble.<br /><br />Not that I don't think there is a time and place for a good 'scene', I'm just smart enough to know that I can't pull that off from another continent.<br /><br />It's not that I feel like I have to be 'nice' to him. In this situation, few words and moving quietly away feels like the dignified thing to do for ME.jenniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373121865782897369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-88143967130436116622010-01-31T07:50:52.066-08:002010-01-31T07:50:52.066-08:00Chris, I do realize that men in particular, do not...Chris, I do realize that men in particular, do not look forward to "relationship talks". However, learning how to resolve things is part of being in a relationship. <br /><br />I have worked very hard to make my marriage work and I did not make the decision to leave lightly. <br /><br />Compromise on many things is good in a marriage, but no one should ever compromise on being treated with love and respect.jenniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373121865782897369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-68192252178341598512010-01-29T13:45:29.367-08:002010-01-29T13:45:29.367-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-36965807387641093642010-01-24T00:27:09.806-08:002010-01-24T00:27:09.806-08:00My God, do people really handle things that nicely...My God, do people really handle things that <i>nicely</i>? After something like that, I would have given him Hell, especially with suspicion of another woman being involved. I would have acted a fool on him. But that's just me, I suppose. I ain't the most civil person around.<br /><br />Oh well... go get all dolled up, find some handsome dude, take pictures of you having a good time and email them to your husband, insulting his manhood. Heheh... okay, still something I would do.<br /><br />sorry, don't think i really have any useful advice.Leilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13370990222038913968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-40410224215578195162010-01-23T20:26:24.620-08:002010-01-23T20:26:24.620-08:00I don't think he had anyone else, but if there...I don't think he had anyone else, but if there is argument before you go he may fear that it will be more argument when you meet him where ever he is. Men fear argument and they want to be alone.<br /><br />All the advisor givers are not realizing how hard you build a relationship and no one wants to give up easily. Most commenter is encouraging separation instead of compromise and hold on to your marriage.Chrisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-27454431934572394462010-01-22T13:16:38.953-08:002010-01-22T13:16:38.953-08:00Thanks Lynn.
I just took a quick look at your blo...Thanks Lynn.<br /><br />I just took a quick look at your blog. I hope you will find the love and happiness you so richly deserve.jenniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373121865782897369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-28403359062854558622010-01-22T13:13:06.000-08:002010-01-22T13:13:06.000-08:00Thanks for the hugs CZ. You are right that there i...Thanks for the hugs CZ. You are right that there is still pain even though I know it is the best thing to do.<br /><br />I wasn't aware that infidelity frequently results when the wife starts setting strong limits. Makes sense too. The weirdest thing to me is that he doesn't seem to connect cause and effect, i.e. if he treated me well, he may not get idealization from me, (he never did as we started as pals), but he would have seen the light in my eyes for him again.<br /><br />I know you know the pain of betrayal. I may never know the truth and in some ways it doesn't matter. I had decided to leave before I had reason to suspect there may be someone else.<br /><br />That possibility of infidelity (or even attempted infidelity)makes it hurt more, but oddly also makes it easier. That can not be explained away by deficits in emotional regulation in the face of strong momentary feelings. That is a conscious choice to break an important vow.jenniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05373121865782897369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-23915986877492870562010-01-22T10:45:16.191-08:002010-01-22T10:45:16.191-08:00I just wanted to say that I feel your pain, but it...I just wanted to say that I feel your pain, but it's great that you are having some peace in your life right nowLynnhttp://www.infidelitystinks.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5291233077621229166.post-49302553396960201032010-01-21T10:20:08.097-08:002010-01-21T10:20:08.097-08:00I am so sorry about your marriage and the pain you...I am so sorry about your marriage and the pain you must be feeling right now. It's never easy to end a relationship, even when we KNOW in our hearts that it's the "right thing to do."<br /><br />Not to fan the flames but my suspicion is that Another Woman is involved, too.<br /><br />This frequently happens when the wife sets limits on her husband's aggression. He may woo her for awhile but the whole time, he is looking for another partner who will see him through idealizing eyes. This may not be the case, but just in case........<br /><br />The toughest thing for people is the Sudden Betrayal. Get used to the idea and you won't be 'shattered' when and if it is true. <br /><br />It's a sign of strength and courage that you are willing to at least consider the possibility of infidelity. <br /><br />Big hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.com