Monday, August 18, 2008

I hate you,you fucking bitch!

That's what he said to me last night.

I have to leave. I don't know where. I didn't sleep last night and I am so tired. I don't know how it will work out. I only know that I have to protect myself from abuse whatever it takes. I trust God to help me.

Please pray for me.
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11 comments:

Mel said...

(((((((((( Jennie )))))))))))))

*praying*

*praying HARD*

Thank you, G-d for taking really good care of her....


A shelter. A relative/friend.
Please, please--wherever you land....let us know you're okay.

CZBZ said...

(((((Jennie)))))

Do you have family nearby or might you need to use your local women's shelter for a few days? Please let me know if you have somewhere you can go. Maybe spend a couple of days in a motel while you think things through. It's almost impossible to think clearly when we're under direct attack.

At some point, 'enough is enough'. You've offered him plenty of chances to get himself together and stop treating you like dirt. At this point, you have nothing to feel guilty about so please don't go there!

A responsible and loving person would suffer remorse for having said those words to anyone---especially his own wife.

The man is a brute.

Hugs,
CZ

jennie said...

Thanks so much mel & cz. I am safe, but still kind of shakey today. I'll write more later.

Amber said...

Leave.

CZBZ said...

I never heard words like that from my X. Maybe if I had, 'waking up' to his hatred would have been easier. But not really. When someone we love speaks to us so cruelly, we don't wake up. We kinda go to sleep. Their words are so irrational, so incomprehensible that our brains go 'tilt'.

We end up standing in one spot like a 'deer in headlights' which is exactly what the abuser intends. He uses words like bullets, in an effort to maintain his dominance and control.

I'm glad you're okay but i'll be watching your blog to stay in touch.

Any man who tells his wife he 'hates her', is not a husband. He's an enemy. An enemy to your spirit and self-worth.

His spewing was a direct attack on your integrity and value as a human being. Don't dismiss, minimize or rationalize his words as anything other than an 'attack'.

Verbal Abuse has the potential of escalating to physical abuse. If he's talking like this and reducing you to an Object, he can justify doing almost anything to get you back under his control.

Get Yourself Safe

Hugs,
CZ

jennie said...

Yes CZ, the episodes of overt abuse have made it easier and quicker for me to recognize the underlying dynamics. Were it not for that, I might still be trying to figure it all out.

I do realize that he is not my friend. Friends don't act that way. In no way do I minimize what he has done. (He does a good enough job of that himself). That's one reason I wanted to get those words out there on my blog.

Thanks for staying in touch. Your support and caring really means a lot to me.

Thank

Anonymous said...

I'm praying for the both of us. hoping you're doing fine now. going through the same thing...

Fatima said...

wow... i feel your pain .... it really hurts.
I left that one night in June.. with five children. My youngest was only 3 years old. my 18 yr old has Cerebral Palsy.
I had no where to go.
21 yrs of abuse.. I couldn't take it anymore...
I made a video to help others
http://www.youtube.com/user/godandenergy?feature=mhw5#p/a/u/2/f0Oi6GMLn0Q
my journey still continues...
I am free
http://godandenergy.com

Golden Oldie said...

I am praying for you , for me and for all those suffering from verbal abuse. It's too late for me as I am now 65 but I will lift you up in prayer today. Please stay strong. Trust in God to tell you what your next step should be.

Anonymous said...

I am new here. Not new to D.V.
It's just wrong that you...'we' are so disrespected that WE have to be the ones that leave, out into the night. No money most likely. It's exhausting. These
males' cuz they are Men, feel so Entitled to treat Women (femininity) like trash ! I hope you can find a SAFE place to BE.
I hope I can also. There needs to be MORE of these. And more people need to HELP women MORE FINANCIALLY.
God Bless

Anonymous said...

I would love to see an update. How are you doing now in fall 2013?

 
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